This question has been on my mind this week.
Lately, I’ve noticed on my instagram feed that it tends to be the extreme behaviors that are applauded or admired.
The 100 mile races. The “no room for moderation” diets. The daily 10+ mile runs. The intense strength training for body figure competitions.
I don’t want to say that there is anything wrong with these pursuits. I am all about setting big goals and going for it! It energizes me like nothing else.
Yet I noticed how easy it is to compare myself to these feats… should I be up at the crack of dawn every day to squeeze more miles in? Maybe I should cut out my dark chocolate habit and grab some heavier weights to see if I can find that six pack. Should I pick a really BIG new goal and go for it?
Gah! No, thank you. There are times and places for that and I will likely have moments of “extremes” in my training (choosing another marathon to train for, etc.) but I love this place of balance right now.
What is it that is so enticing about the extremes? The extreme physical pursuits and extremely clean diets?
I have to consciously talk myself back into reality- I like my routine and my goals are big enough for me. I like not running every single day. I like not being a high mileage runner. I like that I can enjoy eating popcorn when I feel like it and finishing dinner with dark chocolate or grab a piece of leftover Halloween candy without guilt.
And then it makes me a little nervous. These images have so much power! And as a mom of two girls, that worries me.
Some of you may remember the series I did on body image:
- How to handle the negative voice (part one) focused on acknowledging what is true and talking back to the negative thoughts
- Part two was about how you can expand the positive self image of yourself beyond physical appearance
And the follow up step (part three) is to notice WHERE the negativity or comparison stems from and cut it out of your life whenever possible. This can apply to social media, magazines, certain websites, etc. If something makes you feel bad about yourself, unsubscribe or unfollow or limit the time you have to compare.
Focus instead on filling yourself up with as many affirmations and positive balanced people as possible.
The bottom line is the healthiest you can be is with the sustainable lifestyle that makes you happy and full of life!
How do you avoid comparison and stay positive?
Where do the negative voices or comparisons come from in your life?
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