The Fit Mom Controversy

Why is it that moms are such a target for negativity? My friend Sarah wrote a great post regarding the mommy wars which she called “I’d like to request a ceasefire.”   It’s hard to win.

Stay-at-home moms vs working moms,breastfeeding vs formula, cloth diapers vs disposable, sleep training vs co-sleeping; moms are opinionated.  And understandably so! Many of us take months agonizing over which is the ‘right’ decision for us and feel justified when we meet like-minded moms.

In a  similar vein, my friend Angela from Happy Fit Mama and I got to experience the backlash against stay-at-home moms who make it a priority to stay fit.

The cool part of the story, as many of you may have already seen on Twitter or Facebook, is that we were both quoted in yesterday’s Wall Street Journal in an article appropriately titled “Don’t Hate Her For Being Fit.” If you missed it yesterday, check it out!

However, you might want to skip the comments. There are some grumpy people out there! I didn’t take any of it personally, as I realize they’re slamming the image of this fit mom, not me.  The reactions were that repeated most often were:

  • It must be nice to be wealthy enough to stay home and hire housekeepers and nannies so you can workout all day
  • Of course the SAHM can do it, what about the working moms who still find time for fitness?
  • Why don’t they focus on something worthwhile and contribute to society?

Ouch. For the record, staying home is a sacrifice for our family and I do not have a housekeeper or a nanny.  I am in awe of working moms.  And not “contributing” to society is a constant mental battle I have with myself.

Also for the record- I would not spent $69 on an Athleta halter dress.

I could write paragraphs in response to each of these, but the bottom line is, it doesn’t really matter.

I know the reasons I workout: it’s a hobby that I love, that has become part of my identity over the years, and that brings me satisfaction, joy and a sense of accomplishment.

Running gives me a boost of energy to be a better mom, have more patience, focus more selflessly on my daughter knowing I’ve already taken care of myself.  Teaching spin gives me an outlet to encourage others on their fitness journey. Angela also wrote a great post highlighting the article and the rise of the fit moms.

I think jealousy is often the undercurrent behind angry words.

You know the silliest part? I’ve been there. I’ve caught myself thinking similar thoughts when I see moms with six-pack abs rocking their bikinis at the pool… thinking, why must you flaunt your fit self (hidden meaning: and make the rest of us look bad)?

The truth is, we’re all trying to do our best for our families, for our health, for our kids.  So here’s to a fitness ceasefire.  Let’s support each other in our journeys to health and well-being.

Have you experienced fitness ‘haters’? What’s your reaction to this article?


91 thoughts on “The Fit Mom Controversy

  1. Totally, 100% agree. Why do we all have to judge each other for our choices? What works for one doesn’t work for the next. Everyone CAN make fitness a priority, some just choose not to. And that’s there business. But they don’t have a right to judge you unfairly or begrudge you because you do choose it and make it work. It is indeed time for a cease fire!

    On a lighter note–I’m really happy you guys were featured!
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  2. great response. I would have to say – the way that the article read, it kind of gave me that impression too, I don’t think they spun it the right way. Would rather see an article on you or Angela!

    • I think that was kind of her point- look at the extreme exercise these ladies do! What good is an article if it doesn’t stir up some controversy, right? 🙂

  3. Um..we ARE contributing to society!! By raising the next generation of children who value “the home” over “the world”. That’s a huge contribution.
    I beleive that staying home is the right choice for anyone who can afford it. And that women should try at all costs to afford it.

    • Thank you, Lindsay! I am so thankful I’m able to stay home as well, and I agree that it is very meaningful work that is often misunderstood.
      As a previous social worker, I have this pull that I should be giving back in some other way as well, but I’ve come to realize this is where I need to be right now, putting my time into my daughter so that she can make her own mark on the world.
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  4. Laura, I think you ARE contributing to society! You are raising a beautiful, healthy little girl who will benefit greatly from having you stay home and raise her. Also, you are contributing to other people’s health by encouraging them through teaching your spin class. Just because you may not have a 9 to 5 doesn’t mean you aren’t contributing to society; you made a healthy lifestyle choice that fits YOUR lifestyle and it’s important to follow the path set for YOU. Not many people are willing to make sacrifices to do what’s right for them and their family. Unfortunately, as humans, we get caught up in comparing ourselves to others, but we are all individuals for a reason. I think you made the right choice! Keep it up and remember you always have family behind you as well 🙂

    • Thank you for your wise words, Camille! I really appreciate it. You’re absolutely right- comparisons get us nowhere. I’m learning to embrace the stage of life I’m in and hope I can make the most of it!
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  5. IRead the WsJ article but could not open the comments for some reason and now I’m thinking thats a good thing. It’s sad that so many are so judgmental. Everyone has their trials, everyone has their priorities. So be it. It may be tempting to cast stones where the grass appears ‘greener’ but that’s so rarely the case. Society would be a much nicer place if we all supported each other.
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    • I had trouble opening the comments a few times too… yep, you can imagine what they were. You’re right- everyone has their own trials and issues, we have no idea what someone else’s life is really like.
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  6. This is so timely. I never knew about any “fit mom” controversy until yesterday. I’m a coach for a neighborhood track club and one of the runners was complaining and said, “why aren’t you running?” (I was a station leader and the kids were running from station to station.)
    And I responded, “because I already ran 4 miles today!”
    Usually the kids are in awe when coaches say they ran, but this little girl’s jaw dropped and said, “You mean you care more about running than you do about your baby?”
    I was SHOCKED. This girl is about 10 years old. Where did she get that kind of thinking?
    I just told her that I love my baby very much and didn’t say anything else. (why get in a debate with a 10-year old who should be running anyway!?)
    It made me sad though because she had to hear that from somewhere.
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  7. Wow. People can find a negative response to anything, can’t they? That is one downside of the internet, people can make a rush to judgment and post hateful things without thinking about the fact that there are actual human beings on the other side of the screen.

    As to contributing to society? I think raising a small human is certainly a contribution. 😉
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    • You’re so right… it is so much easier to make judgements at strangers in an article. And thank you, nice to know there are many of this raising these small humans together. 🙂
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  8. Ah yes, much likely stems from jealousy or lack of understanding. Being fit and healthy certainly allows you to a better mother, giving clarity, focus, energy, and longevity to be there for your children. Plus, I can’t think of anything that contributes to society MORE than the proper upbringing of the next generation.
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  9. Congratulations on being quoted in WSJ. That is a very neat thing and I am glad that you aren’t taking the negativity personally. So many people do.

    So maybe I am not qualified to comment here since I don’t have children, but I will say this…your job is WAY harder than my job. You don’t get vacations, you don’t get to take “breaks” and you aren’t given raises or praise for doing well or succeeding. I have a ton of respect for SAHM’s because I spend a half day with my friend’s children or my nieces and nephews and I am exhausted beyond belief. So the fact that you take some time for yourself to be healthy and do things that make you a better mom and a happier, more well-rounded person is absolutely commendable!
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    • Thank you, Corey! Yes- it is a must when dealing with young kids all day. Although I have definitely found that my own (as spirited as she can be) is easier than watching other people’s kids… that always leaves me exhausted, too.
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  10. Oh my goodness, the commenters are just haters. Seriously. I think you guys are awesome! I mean, it’s hard to find time to workout, with or without kids! WHY are moms (and people in general) like that? I was reading a friend’s blog about how people were giving her the evil eye because her daughter was wearing PJs in Target. Also my other friend has a 2 yo and she didn’t want to put PJ pants on HER daughter and go out in public. What is the big deal!? Moms, you should UNDERSTAND how it is, not gloat because you are more together, more organized, have more time, a better body or a kid who is wearing pants! Who cares!? I understand when it’s a situation like breastfeeding, where you are hoping to do the right thing and it is maybe a hard decision, but if you choose one, don’t look down on people who chose a different one!
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  11. Like Angela’s post, I love that you stayed positive and above the fray even though those commenters were pretty nasty. Kudos to you for not taking it personally either. Whether working or staying at home (moms or dads), it’s a personal decision for families to make for themselves, period.
    How sad that women who are staying fit are chastised for doing so…god forbid you live a longer and more fulfilling life! Also, love your comment about the Athleta dress! (Admittedly, I would totally buy it!) 😀
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    • You’re right- these are personal decisions, and women get criticized whichever path they choose, it seems! I love your line about living a longer and more fulfilling life. 🙂
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  12. I think you are contributing to society by trying to raise your daughter in the way that works best for your family. She is part of society, and you are creating something good! Working out is part of what you need to do to be healthy and continue to raise her. I say, ignore the haters. 🙂
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  13. There are always going to be the angry haters out there. Personally, I think most of these people are making excuses why they don’t work out. They are so wrapped up in their own misery that they believe their own lies. The majority of Mom fitness bloggers do not have housekeepers and can not afford the expensive athletic apparel. I do commend the working Mom’s but also no plenty of them that MAKE time to work out, which means waking up at 4:00am if they must. These women are not making excuses, they’re getting it ALL done. Life is hard for everyone so, let’s stop hating and start being more supportive and compassionate. Nice post Laura!
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    • Great points, Lisa. I’m so impressed with working moms that still manage to fit everything in. There are worse things in the world to criticize, moms could use a little support!
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  14. Congrats on the quote in the WSJ!

    Don’t you get the feeling The Fit Mom Controversy is one of those discussions where everyone walks away more convinced that they are right? 🙂 I applaud you for not listening to the noise! One of my favorite Norman Vincent Peale quotes is, “It isn’t worth it to spend $1000 worth of emotion on a five-cent irritation.”

  15. I was so fortunate to stay home with my son but we sacrificed a lot to do so. I think it is based on priorities in life. You want a BIG house, a nice car, mani’s and pedi’s…you have to work for those things. Some folks do have the money to stay at home and do all those things but a lot of us don’t. One of my priorities in life is to be fit, which I think, equals being healthy. Having a healthy mind and a healthy body allows me to be give 100% to my family. These ‘haters’ are jealous and lack the motivation or know how to get where ‘fit mom’s’ are in their lives. If I could rock a bikini with flat abs I totally would. I’d be proud of the sweat, energy and balancing act it takes to get there. 🙂

    • Thanks for sharing! I agree that fitness and health go hand in hand, and are a priority for me as well. It takes work to fit it all in! And you’re right about those abs… I’m just jealous. 🙂
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  16. I generally hate anonymous newspaper commentators–cowards! But part of this is also that the WSJ is a business paper and many of their articles, even the ones that are “lifestyle”, have a focus on corporations and on wealthy people, the kind who do have nannies etc. None of us should take this personally at all! And I just think the reporter had good taste choosing you guys (instead of some trust-funder) to quote, because you really are much more representative of the mass of us!
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    • My husband was pointing out the same thing about WSJ’s readers and audience. Makes a lot of sense… I’m surrounded by that wealth here, but I’m glad I can help represent the masses of fit moms. 🙂
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  17. I thought the article was great! There needs to be a focus on fitness and healthy eating habits for everyone to learn from. I am a working mom and I run or do yoga 3-5 times every week depending on my schedule – and it makes me feel SO GOOD. I thought it was nice to highlight the supportive husband – I have often thought about how I couldn’t do it without him.

  18. Boy, do I agree! I get so tired of moms trying to push their beliefs, ideas, etc on everyone else. To each their own, I say.
    I do think that the article didn’t come across quite right- especially the first part, but I loved your quote!
    I have 5 kids, am a SAHM, (with no nanny/housekeeper). I do still deal with the guilt of not “contributing to society” or our family income and it is definitely a sacrifice. BUT I am happy with the choice I have made to be a full-time mother to my children and know it was the best choice for our family. I don’t judge working mothers and would love the same respect.

    • I feel the same way, Jerilee. I’m choosing to be happy with the choices I’ve made, and realize there are criticisms for moms whether you work or stay home. It’s easy to be critical when you don’t have relationships with people in the “other” camp.
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  19. Well said Laura! Like you I could say volumes about us stay at home moms. I too admire women who work and still make the time for fitness. I also admire women like myself who stay at home and do the same. Any wife/mom working or non-working has a choice as to what she does with her health. I choose to have good health as this benefits my family in many ways. Like I said there is so much here that could be said but I whole heartily agree the bottom line is we need to stop judging, and offer deeds and words that build up and not tear down!
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  20. I haven’t read the article, but I agree. Maybe I should photograph myself running while pushing the jogging stroller, leading the dog, and with my 8-year-old riding his bike alongside. LOL Running is a family activity. Before almost every run, I ask if anyone wants to go with. Sometimes we all 4 go, sometimes just the baby and me, sometimes just me and my son, etc. I LOVE that I am a positive role model in exercise.

    What about all those moms that sit around drinking wine all day? Watching soap operas? Etc.? PLEASE.
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  21. I agree!! Being a stay at home mama is hard work!! Exercising does help keep me sane as well as makes me feel like I’m accomplishing something. I know being home is best for my little girl and I’m blessed to be able to do so. I respect working moms and we all should support each other with what we have to do. I think you’re right that jealously drives mean spirited comments.
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    • I agree, I love the feeling of accomplishment, too. I think it’s important for moms at home who don’t have the satisfaction of completing important tasks every day at work!
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  22. Wow, those comments are ridiculous. Speaking for myself, I do feel blessed to be able to stay at home with my kids, but we make sacrifices to do so. I don’t have a nanny or a housekeeper. Heck, I don’t think I have even paid for a babysitter. Plus, raising happy healthy children to grow to be successful adults is a huge contribution to society. I also think that working moms are awesome for staying fit and healthy. We should all celebrate being healthy whether we stay at home or work outside of the home. Congrats on being in the article:)
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  23. I completely agree! Why is it that we always have to find a way to cut each other down? I knew about the negative comments when I read the article and knew that they would bother me but didn’t expect them to bother me as much as they did. You and Angela are setting an incredible example for your kids and are doing what’s right for *you* and your family. Our decisions and what we choose to do – stay at home or work or freelance or work part-time, exercise or not, etc. – is never going to please everyone. The most important is that it works for you and your family.
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    • Thanks, Christine. You’re right- it’s impossible to please everyone. A lot of women tend to be people pleasers by nature which makes this even more difficult, but we do need to find what’s best for us and be confident in our decisions.
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  24. I read some of those comments – and I’ve also been the receiver of some nasty comments through ‘sexist’ (read, relationship commentary) articles I’ve written for work.

    Screw ’em. You’re excellent, and don’t forget it!
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  25. I’m glad to see how well you handled and responded to all the unfounded criticism! I think the internet can be so dangerous with how people can say horrible things behind the shield of a computer screen. It just shows how “balanced” you are by not flying off the handle right back at them–must be all that exercising that keeps you calm. Maybe they should try it too 😉

    Anyway I thought the WSJ article was great. Although the title of the piece kinda seemed like it was asking for some controversy. Regardless thanks for inspiring us other fit mamas out there to keep doing what we’re doing. And congrats on being quoted!!!
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  26. I read that article – had no idea that was you who commented! I’ve always admired what you do with your daughter, your cooking, and your life. I think you set a great example for L and lead a healthy and balanced life! Very inspiring.

    That said, I think the article sounded a bit like a marketing effort for the companies mentioned. Given that it’s the WSJ, the message might have been more about the market for luxury athletic apparel and goods and the consumers who are purchasing them. Sadly, it seems to have just opened the doors for more heated discussion on this already touchy subject.
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    • I know what you mean- I was surprised at the attention the article gave to brands and catering to the wealthy fit moms. My husband said the same thing about the WSJ audience. At least Angela and I tend to be more representative of the middle class mom, although that didn’t really come through in the article.
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  27. Laura – thank you for the well written blog post on a very good topic. I wholeheartedly agree with you. Often, we take topics and decisions that are dear to our hearts more personally than needed. It takes a little discipline to really step back and think of the big picture (as you have in this post). At the end of the day, fitness and childcare are very personal topics and what work for one may not work for others. It is interesting to find that as humans, we like to fit things into classification or apply a one-size-fit-all approach to our challenges. The beauty of it all is that there are pro’s in every option out there. We just have to weigh the pro’s and con’s against our own situations at the certain time and certain space.

    I have utmost respect for fit moms. They are creative in fitting in what is important to them in a busy day and often, a schedule that is a bit beyond their controls. I have colleagues who work full time, raise multiple beautiful children and still find creative ways to bridge exercise/eating well into their lives. That is very positive and very good to see.

    I will close with saying…I totally agree that instead of passing judgements and engaging in senseless debates, we, as women, should focus on sharing with each other our best practices. The more good ideas are shared out there, there more other will benefits.

    • Thanks so much, May! Glad it resonated with you as well. There’s just no point in getting defensive and upset… it generally stems from misunderstandings anyway. Thanks for the facebook share, too. 🙂
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  28. THANK YOU so much for this post!! It is absurd for people to think it unusual for a mom to want to keep herself healthy! If we don’t, we’ve let ourselves go. If we do, we’re selfish. Being a SAHM is absolutely not a walk in the park (it is a blessing and a choice, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy). The ONLY way I get to do anything for myself is if it is a run and it’s crazy to get slammed for that! The other thing I hate is “You must not eat. There’s no way a mom of three could look like you.” No, I work VERY hard to stay in shape. Being a mom definitely seems to open you up to constant criticism about everything we do. Thank you for bringing it to light a bit.
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    • Thanks for sharing, Jessica! I agree with you- staying home is a blessing and a choice but definitely a challenge! Running plays a large part in keeping me sane and happy… which makes for a happier, healthier family.
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  29. I guess I need to come up out of the mommy bubble I live in. I am so behind on social media issues/ current affairs and politics. I had not heard of this controversy yet but I guess it doesn’t surprise me. Not sure why so many working moms assume that just because you stay at home you must be rich and hire housekeepers and nannies. Like you said, this couldn’t be further from the truth. Being a SAHM these past 8 years has been the best “job” I’ve ever had but by far the hardest job as well. I used to feel like maybe I should volunteer somewhere or do something to “contribute” more to society but I STRONGLY feel that raising 4 godly and moral children IS my contribution to society. The four of them will be able to influence thousands in their lifetime and they are MY responsibility.

    Thanks for posting this info. You are a talented writer!
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  30. I don’t get this argument. Would it be better if stay at home moms didn’t exercise? Huh? We should be sedentary stay at home moms?

    I understand the stay home vs working mom debate – it’s one we’ve all had to weigh and decide what’s feasible and best for our little family. I do know that staying home is a luxury and I feel very grateful to be home for now. Does it mean I’ll be home for the next 18 years? No. But, for now, it works really well for the 4 of us.

    Thankfully for us, our gym has a fantastic childcare area so gym time is really fun for the kids and me. There are days when I’m not feeling like exercising, but I go anyway because the kids and I need a change of scenery. Early on in mothering, when I had one child and was working, fitness took a backseat and I was honestly okay with it. So much of early childhood is in seasons and I knew I’d eventually have the time to workout again.

    great post!
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    • I don’t really get it either, Michelle. I think most of the mean-spirited comments stemmed from misunderstanding or jealousy. It appears selfish, or excessive, etc. I agree that fitness has to occasionally take the back seat, but when we can fit it in it makes for happier moms and healthier families!
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  31. This is just plain nuts. I just can’t understand why people care about what other people are eating or how they’re exercising. Such hateful comments! I know a lot of very fit moms who are very fit because their runs are done at 4am before the babies are up or while pushing a stroller, and to belittle them or the amount of time they spend with their children just because they look better in a swimsuit than me would just be crazy!
    I say GO YOU!
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  32. As a SAHD (doing personal training v. early mornings and evenings when my wife gets back from her 9-5) I totally get where you’re coming from. I think a lot of the grumpy hating comes from envy that you’re managing to do something that they haven’t, and so people find ways why “you have it easier than me, that’s why you can do it” to make it ok for themselves that they’re still out of shape. If you want something enough you’ll find a way – I have 2 toddler boys and a 7-month-old daughter to look after during the days, and by putting together some 30-min workouts that I can do during the baby’s naps (and strategically using Nick Jr tv channel for the boys…) I can fit in my weekly workouts and still get the chores done, even though I’d rather be sipping a coffee and telling myself how tough my hectic days are!
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    • Kudos to you! You know exactly what it’s like. And I’m impressed you’re still managing to get chores done! My husband ends up cleaning the kitchen and doing laundry most of the time. 🙂 You’re right, it takes a lot of creativity (and prioritizing) to get workouts in, and a lot of people don’t make the effort to do it… that’s fine, but like you said, it doesn’t mean they need to criticize those who do.
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  33. Agree with all of this!! We need to be more positive and encourage each other. Most people aren’t trying to show off or make others look bad. If they are fit, they had to work at it whether they are a stay at home mom or a career woman. It’s not any easier to get six pack abs when your toddler is crying and needs constant attention…if anything it may be harder.

  34. I am a full time working Mom. I also make staying fit as one of my priorities. And I also think any negative comments about a stay at home fit Mom (or just a Stay at Home Mom) are jealous comments from people who cannot find happiness for other people. Do I wish I could stay home? Absolutely. BUT I also know staying home isn’t an easy task. On days I am home sick or my son is sick…I find it is JUST as much if not MORE work looking after a child. I think we should applaud any person or Mother who makes it a point to take care of themsevles. You are contributing to society by being an example to an obese nation that it’s possible to live a healthy life. Unfortnately, negativity will follow anything or anybody doing something good for themselves. Good for you working and non working Mothers for taking care of yourselves.

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  36. I’ve been thinking about the commenters on the article for days. I think your assessment, and many of the commenters to this post, are spot on. I think a lot of it must jealousy spurred from not prioritizing something that they haven’t figured out how to love in the way you have, and the guilt of avoiding it with the excuse of not having the time. For myself, I know that I have the time, it is just haven’t prioritized exercise in the same way. I know I put as much time into photography, and yet I hope to find a way to enjoy exercise enough to make that a priority, as well. I know we (my whole family) would be better off for it. Instead of jealousy, I feel inspired. Thank you!
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    • Thanks so much for your thoughts, Becky! I agree that the entire family is affected positively when the mom takes time for herself. And photography is a great tool to feed yourself as well, we need those creative outlets. Glad you were inspired. 🙂
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  37. Hi! I’m new to your blog, after checking out fitfluential for the first time. I have to say that my biggest annoyance is the whole “not contributing to society”…I think that’s a battle that’s been inflicted on a lot of sahm’s. It’s by far one of the silliest things ever. Are we not contributing to society by raising our kids? Isn’t being there for them every second that they need us not in it’s own contributing to society. Children that have at least one parent home benefit greatly from having them home? Not that children without one of their parents home don’t do well, but isn’t that a wonderful way to contribute to society?
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    • Thanks for sharing, Rheanna… yes, I think you’re absolutely right. We can’t measure the value of a loving upbringing, but we do know many children don’t do well without it. (Not saying children of working moms don’t get that love- there are so many wonderful day care centers!) Just saying I agree with you that we need to value the training of our children and recognize it’s our future.
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  38. I just found your blog and I can’t wait to read more!! Gosh, this post really hit home! Well said! I’m a stay-at-home mom who is passionate about being healthy and staying fit. Working-out is my hobby; it’s who I am! I receive comments all the time about making fitness a priority and how “easy” I have it. It drives me nuts! It isn’t easy to stay home and be fit. Like you, our family made a sacrifice for me to stay home, but I have never regretted that decision! I love being able to be home everyday with my son.

  39. People are always going to hate and disagree… You are either to big, to skinny, to this or that… It’s ok to watch tv, be on the computer for hours and eat junk, but as soon as you share the love for being healthy and fit you are considered selfish &addicted to looking good etc.
    Mamas should lift each other up instead of judging each other all the time.
    Great post!!

    • I completely agree with you- moms do way too much judging, when what we need to do is support each other. Thanks for sharing!

  40. Why does it all seem so simple and complicated at the same time??? I truly believe it’s a deeper issue…a people issue and American issue. It really doesn’t matter if you are a SAHM, working mom, dad, brother, child, teen, or grandma. People need to be more active.

    I was only 20 years old when my father passed away ultimately due to poor health habits. Although I know he loved me very much, I believe that a parent’s example of a healthy lifestyle is not only a gift of potentially many more years together, but a responsibility to their children to teach them about how to live a healthy life. We teach kids how to ride a bike, read, write, etc. Why on earth would we neglect to teach them to cook healthy food and different ways to be active?

    As for contributing… is sad to me that some people place the value of a child’s upbringing as more beneficial for everyone when it comes from a childcare center of some kind. There are obvious many places that are amazing, but I honestly have yet to meet a working mom of a preschooler that said, “I’m so glad I don’t have to be home with my kids.” It’s self-defeating to the very nature of motherhood.

  41. This is neither a running or “mommy wars” related comment: I can’t believe that little bald chunk is L! I think something that we can all agree on is that little bald chunks are the best! And the one I have right now is one of the main reasons that I’m lagging behind in my pursuit of fitness. At the moment my pursuit breastfeeding and catch up sleep are preeminent…
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